Let’s face it: most of us have our own sexual fantasies. Some are tender, some are wild, some are things we’d never dare say out loud. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
But the problem lies elsewhere. For centuries, morality — wrapped tightly in religious dogma — has labeled sex as taboo. And even today, in 2025, people still carry hesitation, shame, or judgment when it comes to talking about it. Publicly, at least.
Privately? Let’s just say the most visited websites in the world are porn sites. That should tell you everything.
We all crave fulfilling sexual experiences — meaningful, intense, and aligned with our personal desires. But here’s the hard truth: the most difficult part is not having the desire. It’s finding someone who shares it, someone who gets you — not just physically, but emotionally, psychologically, spiritually. Someone with whom you don’t have to hide what you really want.
That’s why so many people take risks — meeting strangers online, engaging in hookups that feel empty, or silently enduring long-term relationships where desires remain buried out of fear or shame.
It’s sad. But it’s real.
Yes, society has made progress. The sexual liberation of the last half-century has brought huge steps forward. And yet, many still pretend, judge, or feel judged when they dare to live freely — to actually enjoy their own bodies and emotional intimacy. Just take the global success of Fifty Shades of Grey — it wasn’t just a book, it was a collective sigh: finally, someone said it.
But what if I told you there’s more than just fantasy?
What if there’s a way to decode who you are — and what you want — based on an ancient energetic system that predates psychology and therapy?
That’s where Ba Zi comes in.
Also known as the Four Pillars of Destiny, Ba Zi is like the spiritual DNA of your soul — a blueprint that exists beyond matter, beyond logic, beyond this one life. It is rooted in energy. In nature. In Qi.
And one of its most practical — and revealing — applications is profiling.
Not the scary kind. The kind that helps you understand yourself — honestly. With your desires, your intensity, your flaws, your fire. Because let’s face it, no one is perfect except God. But with self-awareness, we get closer to wholeness.
Ba Zi profiling also helps you decode others: their passions, limits, needs, and shadows. With deep knowledge, Ba Zi becomes a lens through which nothing is accidental and everything is connected.
Of course, this kind of analysis takes years of study and practice. But BaZi Advisor simplifies that process. Our app builds your chart, decodes it, and shows you layers of interpretation you didn’t know existed — from your career tendencies to your compatibility in love, and yes… to your sexual desires and preferences.
Using advanced analysis algorithms, BaZi Advisor makes the ancient art of destiny decoding accessible to everyone — from beginners who’ve just heard of Ba Zi to professional practitioners who use it to guide clients in powerful ways.
And yes, this is what we came here to talk about: sex, intimacy, hidden passions — all revealed in your Destiny Chart.
Among the four Pillars — Year, Month, Day, and Hour — each tells a part of your story:
- The Year Pillar describes how you behave in society, your public self
- The Month Pillar relates to your career and professional drive
- The Day Pillar is your mirror — who you are in a relationship, how you love, and how you receive love
- The Hour Pillar goes even deeper — your inner self, your true desires, the things you might not even admit to yourself
Sure, sometimes we don’t know someone’s birth hour. That’s okay — most of the time, we at least know the full birth date. And even with just that, we can reveal a surprising amount about a person’s emotional and sexual world.
If you’re skeptical — good. You should be. We encourage it. But if you’re curious, just give it a try. Most of the tools on BaZi Advisor are free. If you find value in it, you can always unlock deeper layers through one of our subscriptions.
In this article, we’re going to walk you through concrete examples: how to spot sexual traits in a Ba Zi chart, what stars to look for, and what certain combinations might say about someone’s bedroom behavior — if they have any indicators at all (because not every chart does, and that’s okay too).
Why? Because Ba Zi is grounded in the concept of the cosmic Trinity — Heaven, Earth, and Man — each contributing one-third of our energetic design. That means some information is accessible, and some is not meant to be seen — reserved only for Heaven, for God. You can’t hack it all. And that’s what keeps this path sacred.
We share this knowledge from a place of freedom and love. Because we believe every human being is born free — with the right to live, love, and experience pleasure without shame. As long as your freedom doesn’t harm the freedom of others, you have every right to enjoy life fully. Sex included.
True freedom, though, always walks hand in hand with love, respect, and human decency.
⚠️ Use what you learn here wisely. Ba Zi insights can be powerful, even transformative. But when used carelessly or manipulatively, they can cause confusion or harm. If you’ve ever been in a situation where someone “used truth” like a weapon, you already know what we mean.
So, now that you’re here, let’s dive deeper. Let’s look at what your chart — or your partner’s — might really say when it comes to sexuality.
Because this time, we’re not whispering.
We’re decoding.
Auxiliary Stars: Sex, Seduction & Subtle Signals
In Ba Zi, "Auxiliary Stars" are special Qi markers linked to each of the twelve Chinese zodiac signs. Think of them as extra layers of nuance — revealing unique personality traits, hidden urges, and sometimes, yes, sexual signals.
For a deep dive into all Auxiliary Stars, read our articles:
But which stars whisper (or shout) something about your love life? Let’s get to it.
💧 Salty Pool — The Taboo Magnet
Represents:
Scandals, heightened sexual attention, unconventional desires
What It Means:
When Salty Pool appears in a Destiny Chart, it often signals a sensual, fantasy-driven nature — and a heightened risk for sexually transmitted issues. But don’t get it twisted: Salty Pool isn’t a moral red flag. It’s not evil. It’s not diseased. It just means the person may be drawn to intense, sometimes taboo experiences.
In a judgmental society, these people are often misunderstood — or worse, end up with the wrong partners: ones who lack education, respect, or basic protection. And that’s where danger lies.
Combinations to Watch:
- Salty Pool + Funeral Door → risk of neuro-syphilis; be cautious with unprotected sex
- Salty Pool + Sky Horse → likely to have spontaneous sex while traveling (vacations, business trips... you know the drill)
- Golden Carriage + Salty Pool + Sky Horse → classic “marry someone rich during a trip and get an STD” combination
Practical Tip:
Do you or your partner have Salty Pool in the chart? If yes, what other elements support or contradict this energy? Always analyze it as part of a bigger picture.
🌸 Peach Blossom — The Star of Seduction
Represents:
Attraction, magnetism, charisma
What It Means:
Peach Blossom (PB) is the undeniable charm factor. It doesn’t just point to sex appeal — it governs all forms of attraction, including romance, beauty, and social allure. Whether you're meeting someone for a date or a business lunch, PB makes people pay attention.
Where It Appears Matters:
- Day or Hour Pillar → attraction is inner and family-oriented
- Year or Month Pillar → attraction is external; likely to have multiple relationships
- Too much Peach Blossom? Gorgeous, but unstable in relationships
- If PB is an unfavorable element, the person may be seductive but emotionally chaotic
Compatibility Trick:
If your Peach Blossom appears in the Hidden Stems of someone else’s chart, that person is likely to feel intense sexual attraction toward you — even if they don’t understand why.
🔒 Red Chamber — The Star of Fidelity (or Not)
Represents:
Faithfulness, loyalty — or the lack thereof
What It Means:
- In a Destiny Chart → long-term patterns of infidelity
- In a Luck Pillar → temporary temptations, cheating, or emotional distance during that time
⚔️ Death God — The Guarded Lover
Represents:
Courage, resolve, control (when favorable); conflict, emotional detachment (when not)
What It Means:
- Favorable → loyal, sexually restrained, emotionally mature
- Unfavorable → difficult spouse dynamics, suppressed passion, inner frustration
Next time you’re curious why someone behaves the way they do — or why you crave what you crave — check for these stars.
They may not define the whole story, but they certainly add spice to it.
Day Pillar: The Mirror of Desire
As mentioned earlier, the Day Pillar is where your deepest traits live. It’s the anchor of your Ba Zi chart — describing not just how others see you, but how you are in intimacy, in commitment, and yes, in bed.
The Earthly Branch (the zodiac animal of the day) reflects your external behavior. The Heavenly Stem (your Day Master) is your core — the part of you that doesn’t always show.
And sometimes, this pillar reveals sexual patterns that are… let’s say, worth exploring:
- Yang Fire Rat (Day Master Yang Fire, Branch Rat): intense, unstable, often kinky. Think escort energy: unapologetic, detached, but definitely driven by pleasure.
- Yin Fire Ox and Yang Fire Rat: Na Yin = “Water from Streams,” indicating high libido, fluid sexuality.
- Yin Fire Rooster: radiates sex appeal. Often has high libido, gets bored quickly, may appear unrefined. The kind of person people imagine naked.
- Yang Earth Horse: traditional, prefers conventional sex. Think candlelight and missionary.
- Yin Earth Rooster: shy at first, but once comfortable, loud and prefers to be dominated.
- Yang Metal Rat: resourceful, kinky, hates control. One of the most intense sexual archetypes.
- Yin Water Ox: dubbed the "sex pillar." Exceptionally creative, very passionate, and thrives on daily sensual novelty.
Don’t forget — these aren't rules. They are possibilities. Context matters. The full chart always tells the full story.
Still, if you’ve ever wondered why someone radiates sexuality — or why someone else is all business in public but wild in private — the Day Pillar might hold your answer.
Personal Profile - The Lens into Your True Nature
Your Personal Profile, generally derived from the Main God of your Month Pillar, reveals key insights about your professional life. Since for most of us, work occupies roughly 70% of our active life, it naturally leaves a strong mark not only on our character but sometimes even on our behavior and sexual needs. Don’t know your Profile yet? It’s easy—just check the first panel of the Profile Analysis on BaZi Advisor.
For example, if your main Profile is Indirect Resource, you’re someone who relies on your own intelligence to navigate life’s mysteries. You’re a ‘why not?’ type—willing to try a wide range of things without questioning. Mysterious and a bit needy, you tend to be more solitary. You love sharing discoveries and bragging about them with friends. When it comes to relationships, you’re not the one to compromise just to please your partner—it’s their job to give you satisfaction. But once you find that special person who respects your need for space and independence, you become loyal and romantic. Just one heads-up: your partner can’t shy away from intimacy if the relationship is to work.
If your main Profile is Seven Killings, you tend to be pretty choosy about the opposite sex—but real beauty, for you, always comes from within. On the other hand, those with Indirect Wealth as their main Profile never lack style or sex appeal. They’d rather be classy than flashy.
Women with Direct Officer as their Profile often prefer to be dominated—sexually, they lean toward the missionary position. Meanwhile, those with an Eating God Profile are among the most passionate and sometimes sexually adventurous, even bordering on perverse.
People with Indirect Wealth tend to have a strong affinity for booze, sex, and parties. Seven Killings individuals, however, face many challenges in romantic relationships.
In a man’s Destiny Chart, an excess of Indirect Wealth usually signals problems with the opposite sex—too many options, too many women—and difficulty in forming a fulfilling, lasting relationship with just one partner.
If Indirect Resource only appears in the Hidden Stems and is weak, in some cases it may indicate severe perversions (think kleptomaniacs and sexual deviants).
Pillars Interactions: The Hidden Storms of Desire and Destiny
The elements in your Destiny Chart don’t just sit quietly—they interact in ways that shape who you are and how your life unfolds. Some of these interactions bring good fortune, while others can create challenges. These energies stay with you throughout your life, though their effects can change depending on time and other influences, like the Noble Men stars that can sometimes cancel out negative effects.
If you want to explore these complex connections, check out our course “BaZi Advisor – Ba Zi & Feng Shui Course”. And if you use the BaZi Advisor app, all these details are already part of your chart’s story.
Let’s focus on what these interactions tell us about sexuality and relationships:
- The Rabbit-Rat combo, called Uncivilised Punishment, shows a person who tends to look out mainly for themselves and can be quick to act in their own interest. It may point to deep wounds, such as experiences of sexual abuse or trauma. When earth elements are strong, this can also mean more unusual or perverse sexual tendencies. Loyalty may be hard to maintain. During certain periods, this energy warns of risks for sexual problems or harassment. This happens when specific Earthly Branches appear together or interact with yearly or luck pillars.
- The Rooster-Rat pairing, called Destruction, signals times when a person feels out of control and may act recklessly or destructively. This includes addictions—alcohol, drugs, gambling, and sex. Peach Blossom stars also show up here, connected to attraction but also vulnerability. People with this setup need careful, gentle support from those who care about them.
- When Yang Fire meets Yin Metal in the Heavenly Stems, they produce Water. If Water is not favorable in the chart, it can cause excessive sexual behavior, greed, or a lack of romance and manners. This can also suggest a risk of sexually transmitted diseases and sometimes bisexuality or other less common sexual preferences. You can check the balance of elements and their favorability for your chart in the BaZi Advisor app, or learn more in the “Ba Zi Decoding – Day Master Analysis” course.
- For example, a Yin Fire Day Master with a lot of Water in their chart often experiences relationships with many partners.
- When Destruction meets Clash—like the Horse-Rabbit and Rat-Rooster happening together—it can create serious problems related to sex, such as abuse or chaotic relationships. This combination brings all Peach Blossom stars into the chart, which governs attraction and sexuality. If these stars are affected by negative elements, it often points to addictions or unusual behaviors related to sex, drugs, or alcohol.
What Do Stars and Gods Reveal About Us?
The concept of the Ten Gods in Ba Zi is rooted in the dance of the Five Elements—Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water—each with its Yin or Yang polarity. These elements interact in supportive or controlling ways, weaving a complex web of relationships. Each “God” is actually one of these elements in a specific relationship with the Day Master—the element of the Heavenly Stem in the Day Pillar of your Destiny Chart, marked as DM.
Want to dive deeper? Check out our article “Unraveling Destiny: Exploring the Ten Gods in Ba Zi Analysis.”
Where you find a certain God—in the Heavenly Stem, Hidden Stems, or even in the third line of the Destiny Chart that reflects the Qi energy of the Polar Animal—shapes how we interpret its meaning. Sometimes, a God points not just to personality traits, but to places, types of people, or specific life situations. For more on these layers, see our articles “Traits and Matters Ten Gods Could Represent” and “People and Places Ten Gods Could Represent.”
For example, the Seven Killings star can indicate an attraction to thrilling, high-adrenaline places—operating rooms, red-light districts like Amsterdam, Formula 1 circuits, or even parks (especially if, say, sexual activity happens on a bench there).
If a Destiny Chart has many Friends stars (to learn more about these, see “Ba Zi - Five Stars Analysis”), the person may be drawn to unconventional sexual relationships.
A man missing the Wealth Star in his Destiny Chart often faces difficulties in connecting with women or sustaining a lasting marriage.
The Hurting Officer (HO) star is closely tied to sexual desire, indulgence, and a certain willfulness or open-mindedness. When HO interacts negatively with energies from the Day, Month, or Year Pillars, beware: the risk of sexually transmitted diseases rises significantly. Both very strong or very weak HO energy in a chart signals vulnerability in sexual health, especially regarding the reproductive organs.
The Stages of Qi and Their Secrets
Qi energy flows in cycles, as all things do in Chinese Metaphysics. One of its key stages is called Prosperous. When this stage appears in your Destiny Chart—especially in the Day Pillar—it marks someone who tends to be exceptional in the bedroom.
Closing Thoughts: Self-Knowledge — The True Path to Sexual Freedom
Sexuality is far more than a physical urge or a taboo topic to avoid. It is a profound part of who we are — a subtle language of energy and soul that deserves to be understood and honored. Ba Zi offers us a rare and precious tool: an ancient language that helps us decode our desires, boundaries, and intimate aspirations, as well as those of the people around us.
This is not about perfection, but authenticity. By deeply knowing our own energetic blueprint, we become more aware, compassionate, and open in our relationships. And it is this openness that frees us from judgment and fear, making room for genuine, passionate, and respectful connections.
As Lao Tzu wisely said:
"Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power."
Ultimately, truly knowing yourself — in all your complexities, including your sexuality — is the key to living a life of freedom, joy, and harmony.
Master Wey
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